Filling My Own Cup

Growing up as the second youngest in a family of eight, I learned early to be a people-pleaser. That habit followed me into adulthood. I never learned to say "no," or to ask for help and it eventually took a toll on me. I was functioning onblittle sleep and eventually suffered with insomnia amd sleep deprivation which led to panic attacks,and anxiety. I was running on empty, trying to pour into everyone else's cup while mine was bone dry. My healing started with one quiet boundary: I stopped over committing. I kept my schedule light and learned to politely decline invitations. I slowly began to heal, but I was still putting others first. Until menopause came along and demanded I put myself first. I was forced to set healthy boundaries with family and walk away from toxic relationships. and listen to my body. Today, I focus on the little things that bring me joy, I learn to let go of things I can’t control, and give myself the same grace I give others. Saying "no" is still a struggle, but I am taking what my Doctor said to heart " in order to care for your family, you have to take care of yourself".